“Our confidence isn’t in ourselves, but rather in Jesus.”
Let’s face it, the struggle is real when it comes to the topic of insecurity. Whether you’ve been mocked by peers, broken up with when you thought it was perfect, or even influenced by the social media of today, I am certain you have probably felt the “you’re not good enough” message in one way or another. It seems as if we almost have an “epidemic” of insecure people in our society today – you can laugh but this is somewhat a good way of explaining it. Comparison is contagious. Insecurity is widespread. Some form of judgment is everywhere. Questions like “how do you think other people would describe you?”, or “what is one word to describe how you feel about yourself?” are so normal in different social atmosphere it hurts. Should we care about how we view ourselves? Yes. Should we want others to think of us as kind, loving individuals? Of course! But should we let that affect how we carry-out our life? No.
So many people have an identity crisis because they don’t really know who they are and then they go on to base their worth and value on all the wrong things such as what they do, what they look like, who they know, what they know or what they own. But, why? Why are so many people in society placing all of their “self-worth” on these views? Why are so many people placing value on materialistic objects? And why does all of a sudden our idea of “confidence” solely come from yourself?
I think what it comes down to is quite simply: we need to swap out our self-confidence for Christ-confidence. We need to remember that even though it may appear as self-confidence, our courage and certainty comes solely from Christ. Christ alone is the resource for our self-worth. And with that said, how can we ever think we are not worthy?! Maybe we are not at our best, but He knows that. Maybe we are not where we want to be yet, but He knows that. Maybe we are not who we thought we would be, but He knows that. The thing is, if Jesus is the Lord of your life, then He is the very reason for you being exactly where you are. And as a society, how can we discredit that?! How can we be so insecure and carry-out life with so much shame, knowing that the Lord is with us, every step of the way, providing for us?
Psalm 139 was written by David, and verses 1-8 state: “You have searched me, Lord, and you know me. You know when I sit and when I rise, you perceive my thoughts from afar. You discern my going out and my lying down; you are familiar with all my ways. Before a word is on my tongue you, Lord, know it completely. You hem me in behind and before, and you lay your hand upon me. Such knowledge is too wonderful for me, to lofty for me to attain. Where can I go from your Spirit? When can I flee from Your presence? If I go up to the heavens, You are there; if I make my bed in the depth, You are there.”
The Lord searches for you, day in and day out. He is familiar with everything you say, everything you do, everything you think, and the way you carry-out every life activity. So why hide from Him? Why dishonor Him by being so ashamed? Why discredit His work when He created you? To Him, you are smart. To Him, you are beautiful beyond belief. To Him, you can do no wrong, unless you simply stop following Him.
Now, granted, everyone experiences insecurity at times. Everyone in this world is at a different place, surrounded by different people, causing us to experience comparison in many different ways. However, that doesn’t mean we cannot all resonate with the Word of God. Just because we are not all on the same path doesn’t mean the Lord doesn’t want us to have the same mindset. The Lord wants us to be confident in who we are, because He already knows who we are. The Lord calls us to be confident 70 times in the Bible by saying “Do Not Fear”. That doesn’t even include variables such as “Be Courageous” or “Fear Not” but simply 70 different times He states “Do Not Fear.” Now, if that isn’t something to get you to throw out your own form of self-confidence then I don’t know what will.
I think we need to start shifting towards a Christ-confidence approach at life. Now, this doesn’t mean it is wrong to have confidence in yourself. Self-confidence is vital to pursuing your passion. But what this means is letting the Lord be the source of your self-confidence. Let Him tell you your worth. Let Him tell you how beautiful you are. And, let Him be your source to drawing towards the end-goal: a Jesus centered life. The thing is, we are never going to be perfect, because only Jesus could ever be. However, that doesn’t mean we should not strive to be as perfect as He is. Yes we will fail in some areas, we can never obtain every “Jesus-like quality” as a human on this earth. But, we should not get down on ourselves when we do fail, and we should not let that lead us to comparison and insecurity.
Do you ever compare yourself with other people and feel belittled if you can’t do what they can do or be like them? Have you ever said “I wish I looked like her” or “I wish I had what they have” or “I wish I could do what you do”? Today I have a challenge for you… Just don’t do it. Quit thinking you aren’t good enough. Quit thinking that you aren’t smart enough for the job. Quit thinking that you aren’t good enough for the boy. And quit thinking that you aren’t living life to your fullest. I promise, the Lord has you exactly where He wants you. Embrace it.
With all that I am,