“There are far better things ahead than any we leave behind.” – C.S. Lewis
I am a strong believer that January 1st is the perfect time to rethink our lives, and start tackling goals. I think there is a sense of comfort when the new year creeps in that gives us all hope that we can begin to chase our passions, and feel alive. It almost represents a blank canvas that allows us to fully release what may have happened and embrace what could be. For many of us, the New Year resembles new dreams, new aspirations, and more importantly, a new segment in our lives. However, the new year can become a problem when it begins to represent a new you.
Now don’t get me wrong, I do believe that the concept and idea behind having a new year’s “resolution” has great intentions. I truly believe we picked this word as a society for all of the right reasons. It is bold, it holds a sense of action, and more importantly, it enables us to achieve. However, the issue is that a majority of our culture only expresses these new year “changes” either until they have reached their end goal or they quit once the year is over and they have not completed the goal (guilty as charged).
Therefore, I think it is finally time we ditch the typical New Year’s resolutions. I think that it is finally time that we give these so called “resolutions” a new meaning. I think it is time that we swap these so called New Year’s “Resolutions” in for a new perspective.
What do I mean by ditching the new year resolution for a new perspective? I mean creating long-term habits. I mean creating a better attitude towards your body. I mean not being so focused on such a short-term fitness goal and more focused on long-term health changes.
You see, in our society we have become too focused on reaching SUCH specific goals that we will get so defeated and then give up all together. Personally, I gave up health and wellness, blogging, and creativity for a long time (about a year). Before starting The Soulful Ways and accepting Jesus as my Savior in 2017, I was too focused on short-term gratification. I had my eyes fixed on quick fixes instead of long term remedies. For example, I would google “how to lose weight as fast as possible with no gym” or “how to lose 5 pounds in 2 days” or even “how to make yourself not hungry to lose weight.” I think about these things now and laugh, but truly, it was such a problem. I was so focused on just getting “fit” instead of being “healthy” that I was settling for short-term fixes. I was not creating a well rounded lifestyle because I just wanted to hit goals as quick as possible, and in reality, I ended up achieving even less. I know all of this may sound silly, but, I am sure you have been there too in some way, shape, or form. We have all felt helpless and have resorted to quick-fixes. And either we did not achieve it, or it was a short-term success that left us right where we started.
However, fast forward to January of 2019, and I am finally achieving all of these goals that I so desperately wanted to achieve. I lost the weight. I improved my grades. I added on an additional major. I have a supportive boyfriend. I have a better relationship with my family. I became a Christian. The list can go on and on as to what I have achieved, but this blog is not about me, it is about what I have learned. And I have learned that what society calls “resolutions” does not work for me. I learned that the new year was the perfect time to embody a new perspective on life. I learned that change can start whenever, and that we do not need a new year in order to enable the pathway towards who we want to be, however, it is a great time to start.
This year, instead of being defeated when you don’t reach a goal, ask yourself how can you tackle it differently next time. This year, instead of being focused on losing a certain number of pounds on the scale, focus on your bodies transformation. This year, instead of putting a time frame on your goals, just set them. Stop limiting yourself and start believing in yourself. Don’t get me wrong, it is not bad to say “I want to lose 10 lbs by my cruise in May” or “I want to have 10,000 views on my blog by September.” However, I have found myself much more effective when I just write down accomplishments with no limits. There is something powerful in just going after it and not feeling so stressed out by a certain date. I can promise you that your goals will be accomplished and implemented into your life more organically if you just start tackling them head on without limitations. We need to remember that resolving (or having a resolution) means to not go back, and to bring a remedy to an obstacle or question. This year, bring a remedy to yourself by not going back to the old habits you hate, and start molding the path towards the new habits you want to create. The path is not always a straight shot from A to B. We won’t always have the perfect moment, the perfect opportunity, or the perfect surrounding, but we can make them everything that we need. We have to create our own opportunities. Sometimes we have to ignite the new beginnings, and in many cases, that means we won’t always be ready. Sometimes, risk will fall before readiness. Sometimes, waiting is going to fall after doing. Sometimes, creation only happens in the midst of uncertainty. But that doesn’t mean it isn’t impossible, it simply means that it isn’t always going to be easy. Reaching goals is never going to be clear, perfect, and crisp. Sometimes, your goals will be attained easier, but many times it won’t go as planned. And this year, I want you to remember, that is okay. You can still do it.
Let this new year be the year that is more than a bulleted list of goals. Instead go out, try to accomplish them, and learn a thing or two along the way.
Let this year take you by surprise, and give you wisdom.
Learn to embrace every twist, and build off every success. Give this new year all of the love, confidence, and courage that you possibly can. Try to make it more than just a point of reaching goals, but actually reaching a new perspective.
Let this year be the year you give yourself freely to the unknown, believing that it will be nothing short of rewarding.
With all that I am,